We all want to be loved and hate be harshly judged.
Those who have faith in Christ are a part of the family of God which is an interdependent family relationship. The world is too evil, and we are too weak to walk alone. We need each other in order to stay faithful until Christ returns. Loving service to each other is characterized by the following commands: teach, exhort, warn, reprove, rebuke, and restore. However, to obey these commands, a Christ-like attitude must be embraced which is summarized in Ephesians 4:32. “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” With this in mind, we are equipped to help each other; and without it, we may become judgmental, condescending, and harsh.
Brethren, even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; each one looking to yourself, so that you too will not be tempted.
When the spirit of meekness is not maintained, our ministering to others can become self-serving and a snare for both the one we are serving and ourselves.
Jesus commands us not to have a judgmental attitude that tears others down in order to build ourselves up. Instead of criticizing others, we should examine our own lives and change when needed. The carnal tendency of man is to have 20/20 eyesight to see faults in others, but blindness to their own faults.
Do not judge so that you will not be judged.
For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you.
Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?
Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' and behold, the log is in your own eye?
You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.
The family of God should be a safe haven from the harshness of the world. Gentleness and love are so much better than wrongful judgments.