One of the major themes of today is that of people feeling “different” and “not wanted.” Fears run rampant of abandonment, not being important enough to be welcomed, and feeling like one is “in the way” or a “bother” all the time. In this state of thinking, it is difficult for us to recognize the truth that others can want us around them and enjoy our company and friendship. The antidote is to re-parent ourselves and allow Yahweh and the Scriptures to teach us how to do that.
First of all, we need to learn how to trust that Yahweh through Jesus Christ will heal and protect us. The continued teaching and training from the Scriptures and from prayer lead us into a loving two-way relationship with Yahweh. By applying Scripture and through being empowered by prayer, we are able to establish godly principles into our lives. The results will be attaining the life that Yahweh wants us to have, one free of burdens of feeling left out and miserably alone.
As children, we earnestly desire our parent’s love and attention. How our parents regard us – as a blessing or a bother – feed into us how we see Yahweh as our God. This wrong training of being a bother clouds our thinking, and we say we cannot be in a loving relationship with Him because we did not learn how to be loved and nurtured. As adults, we look to the flesh to fill this empty place in our hearts and fail miserably at trying to feel wanted and needed. In adjusting our eyes and putting them on Yahweh and Jesus Christ, we will get them off ourselves and invite Yahweh’s healing presence into our pain-wracked lives. David wrote many psalms, praises, and songs about despair and pain, victory and love. He understood that no matter what state he was in, his heart could rejoice in the goodness and love of Yahweh.
Psalm 63:1, 3. O God, You are my God: I shall seek You earnestly, my soul thirsts for You, my flesh yearns for You, in a dry and weary land where there is no water. Because your lovingkindness is better than life, my lips will praise you.
We trust in Yahweh by earnestly thirsting for Him. It is like a toddler running to his mother with arms outstretched and a grand hug is given to the child by mom. We run to Yahweh. We thirst and pant for His love and care. This next passage from Psalms is a prayer of David’s and can be a prayer of ours also.
Psalm 86:1-7 NLT. Bend down, O LORD, and hear my prayer; answer me, for I need your help. Protect me, for I am devoted to you. Save me, for I serve you and trust you: You are my God. Be merciful to me, O Lord, for I am calling on you constantly. Give me happiness, O Lord, for I give myself to you. O Lord, you are so good, so ready to forgive, so full of unfailing love for all who ask for your help. Listen closely to my prayer, O LORD; hear my urgent cry. I will call to you whenever I’m in trouble, and you will answer me.
When we feel we are unwanted, unloved, ashamed, or just not comfortable to be around others, we can call upon Yahweh for help. David loved Yahweh because he walked and talked with him as a shepherd and as a young man fighting Goliath and as a hunted man in the desert. He experienced the excitement and joy of the deliverance and healing that was poured out onto him. Getting to a point in our lives where we get sick and tired of trying it on our own and controlling our environments and others, we then can lay it all down and be humble before Yahweh allowing Him to re-parent us.
He heals broken hearts which are empty hearts that do not feel welcomed. Psalm 86 tells us that Yahweh will protect us. In the action of laying our sinful lives down and giving our pain to Yahweh, He will heal and protect us. When we walk into a room, is it the unwelcomed child that believes she is not as good as others or that no one wants us around, or do we see ourselves as one who is loved by Yahweh and Jesus? Do we use the self-talk of old man nature lies or the truth that we belong to Yahweh who will help us when in trouble?
David says he constantly called upon Yahweh. God’s unfailing love is for us all – we need to humble ourselves and ask for help. At the end of verse 7, David confidently states, “I will call to you whenever I’m in trouble, and you will answer me.” Asking for help for basic thoughts to be godly thoughts and emotions to be godly emotions are prayers that get answered. Experiencing the rush of answered prayer is electrifying. Do not see it at first? Stay faithful and consistent while watching for answers, and they do come to us. The Scriptures teach us this truth.
David knew that Yahweh would always welcome him, even if his heart was broken, he had sinned, or was in pain. The loving relationship that David had with Yahweh is an example of how we can be with our Father, Yahweh.
Instead of living out of the lack of good things we should have gotten as children and young adults, we strive to trust Yahweh by studying Scriptures, praying, and acting on godly principles. We strive to humble ourselves to live our lives praising Yahweh. We strive to accept that as we freely give our whole soul, mind, and body to Him, we can receive love from others and be welcomed now and into the Kingdom of God in the fullness of time.